View Article  A Friend Finder Program for Parents of Children with Autism.

Would you like to find other parents of children on the spectrum in your community to make friends and lend support to one another? I saw this article in WebWire about a Friend Finder program through AutismKey.com:

 

Autism Support Website Launches Friend Finder Program

AutismKey.com
6/7/2006 3:49:41 PM

June 7, 2006 –- As autism prevalence rates continue to rise nationwide, there has been an ever-growing demand for support at the local level. Parents, family members and caregivers of autistic children are often turning to others in their community for support and friendship.

For this reason, Autism Key (http://www.autismkey.com ) has announced the launch of their Autism Friend Finder program. This unique system will allow visitors to submit basic contact information through a web based portal. The data will then be shared with anyone residing within a 35 mile radius of their postal zip code. The information will allow individuals facing similar challenges to connect with others in their community.

“Local support is critical for parents and family members facing these disorders,” said Gary Greaves, webmaster and operator of AutismKey.com.

“Some of our best friends are other parents of children with special needs. Lifelong friendships are often formed with others who understand your challenges. With this program, I wanted to create a vehicle where users can connect with people in their own back yard,” he added.

The program is free of charge and only requires a first name, valid email address and zip code. Optional options also allow users to provide more detailed information.

Greaves, who is the father of an autistic child, says the idea for the program was hatched from requests he received through his website.

“People emailed me wanting to locate others in their area. I thought this would be a great way for parents and family members to get connected if they’re not currently plugged into a local support group or autism chapter.”

“Additionally, with the school year coming to an end, many parents are looking for summer programs and activities for their children. Participation in the Autism Friend Finder program can be a valuable resource to learn about different things to do for the summer,” he added.

Autism Key is a website that also provides resources, news, message boards and support. More information is available on conditions such as Asperger Syndrome, Fragile X, Hyperlexia and other Autism Spectrum Disorders.

To learn more or to enroll in the Autism Friend Finder program, visit http://www.autismkey.com

Contact Information:

Gary Greaves
Owner, AutismKey.com
561-716-5732
contact@autismkey.com

Article courtesy of WebWire

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View Article  Autism Therapy - There's More Than One Way

"That doesn't work." How many times have we heard this statement in terms of therapies for autism? Is it fact or opinion, depending on who is saying it? The answer may surprise you.

 

In our present academic environment, and actually in a lot of areas of life, if someone isn't up on something, they're usually down on it.

 

That means if someone doesn't know that much about something - ie, if it's not within the area of their expertise, they're often critical of it, especially if they don't know anything about it! Ludicrous? Yes. But often true.

 

I attended an autism conference a couple of months ago, where I sat through a session called "Fads in Autism".

 

The theme of the session was that ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) was the only therapy that "works" in autism - that everything else was the scheme of some huckster, trying to make a quick buck, at the expense of parents hopes, dreams and pocketbooks. The projection screen listed just about every therapy for autism ever known to mankind, all deemed the work of con artists or well-meaning people who didn't know what they were doing. 

 

And there was our expert, telling us they all didn't work. The true cons were lumped into the list with some helpful and valuable therapies and approaches. It was a terrible shame for parents that were new to the world of autism therapy.

 

Basically any therapy that didn't have their research completed- was on the list, which is basically just about everything but ABA. It was interesting that speech therapy and special education were notoriously absent from the list.--both non-data-taking strategies. I can only guess that was because there were special educators and speech therapists present.

 

So what happened? Everyone in the room seemed to agree, as evidenced by a sea of bobbing heads. Parents were mesmerized, happy and thankful that this man saved them from going into the abyss of choosing the wrong intervention for their child. I've never been so unnerved. I wondered if we'd all have to drink the pink koolaid next.  

 

When a person presents themself as one who backs up what they say with research, everyone in the room will assume the opinion is factually based, or may not even realize it's an opinion at all. After all, a behavior analyst would never say anything that wasn't backed up with research, right?

 

Well, as it turns out, at least with this guy, there was no attempt to separate fact from opinion.

 

I remember when I was new to this whole process. When a behavior analyst said that something didn't work, I assumed that they had research and data to back it up. I believed that ABA was the only effective autism intervention and that everything else was either crap, ineffective, or certainly very secondary to the effectiveness of ABA, because that's what I was told. It wasn't until my child experienced benefits from other interventions that I knew a different truth.  Read more...

 

Sandra Sinclair, www.autismvoice.com

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View Article  Please feel free to make comments and trackbacks again...

Now that there's a new feature that allows me to check comments and trackbacks before posting, I can allow comments and trackbacks again on Autismvoice.

I had some very nasty comments and trackback spam from porno sites recently, and had to stop all posting on the blog for awhile, to prevent our readers from having to read that.

Now that we have this feature, please feel free to post and trackback again. Your post will go up usually within 48 hours or so, as soon as I have an opportunity to review it.  

Sandra Sinclair, www.autismvoice.com

View Article  Common Mistakes People Make in Advocating for Their Children

This is a great series of articles at Wrightslaw about the common mistakes parents, advocates, evaluators, and school districts make in advocating and creating a plan for our children. This link leads to parents' mistakes, and if you scroll down that page, you'll see links to the other articles. Very helpful! This is intended for US residents, since it's based on US laws; however, there are overall themes of wisdom that could be applied throughout the world in advocating for our children's educational and therapeutic needs:

http://www.fetaweb.com/02/mistakes.parents.crabtree.htm 

Sandra Sinclair

www.autismvoice.com

View Article  10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew

This is an incredible article by Ellen Notbohm about some of the misconceptions about autism and what we can do about them - written from the child's point of view. It's an eye-opener. She also has a similar article for teachers that I will post soon. - Sandra Sinclair, www.autismvoice.com

 

 

TEN THINGS EVERY CHILD

WITH AUTISM WISHES YOU KNEW

by Ellen Notbohm

 

 

 

Some days it seems the only predictable thing about it is the unpredictability.  The only consistent attribute -- the inconsistency There is little argument on any level but that autism is baffling, even to those who spend their lives around it.  The child who lives with autism may look “normal” but his behavior can be perplexing and downright difficult.

 

Autism was once thought an “incurable” disorder, but that notion is crumbling in the face knowledge and understanding that is increasing even as you read this.  Every day, individuals with autism are showing us that they can overcome, compensate for and otherwise manage many of autism’s most challenging characteristics.  Equipping those around our children with simple understanding of autism’s most basic elements has a tremendous impact on their ability to journey towards productive, independent adulthood.

 

Autism is an extremely complex disorder but for purposes of this one article, we can distill its myriad characteristics into four fundamental areas: sensory processing challenges, speech/language delays and impairments, the elusive social interaction skills and whole child/self-esteem issues.  And though these four elements may be common to many children, keep front-of-mind the fact that autism is a spectrum disorder: no two (or ten or twenty) children with autism will be completely alike.  Every child will be at a different point on the spectrum.  And, just as importantly – every parent, teacher and caregiver will be at a different point on the spectrum. Child or adult, each will have a unique set of needs.

 

Here are ten things every child with autism wishes you knew:

 

1.  I am first and foremost a child.  I have autism.  I am not primarily “autistic.”  My autism is only one aspect of my total character.  It does not define me as a person.  Are you a person with thoughts, feelings and many talents, or are you just fat (overweight), myopic (wear glasses) or klutzy (uncoordinated, not good at sports)?  Those may be things that I see first when I meet you, but they are not necessarily what you are all about.

 

As an adult, you have some control over how you define yourself.  If you want to single out a single characteristic, you can make that known.  As a child, I am still unfolding.  Neither you nor I yet know what I may be capable of.  Defining me by one characteristic runs the danger of setting up an expectation that may be too low.  And if I get a sense that you don’t think I “can do it,”  my natural response will be:  Why try?

 

2.  My sensory perceptions are disordered.  Sensory integration may be the most difficult aspect of autism to understand, but it is arguably the most critical.  It his means that the ordinary sights, sounds, smells, tastes and touches of everyday that you may not even notice can be downright painful for me.  The very environment in which I have to live often seems hostile.  I may appear withdrawn or belligerent to you but I am really just trying to defend myself.  Here is why a “simple” trip to the grocery store may be hell for me:

 

My hearing may be hyper-acute.  Dozens of people are talking at once.  The loudspeaker booms today’s special.  Musak whines from the sound system.  Cash registers beep and cough, a coffee grinder is chugging.  The meat cutter screeches, babies wail, carts creak, the fluorescent lighting hums.  My brain can’t filter all the input and I’m in overload!

 

My sense of smell may be highly sensitive.  The fish at the meat counter isn’t quite fresh, the guy standing next to us hasn’t showered today, the deli is handing out sausage samples, the baby in line ahead of us has a poopy diaper, they’re mopping up pickles on aisle 3 with ammonia….I can’t sort it all out.  I am dangerously nauseated.

 

Because I am visually oriented (see more on this below), this may be my first sense to become overstimulated.  The fluorescent light is not only too bright, it buzzes and hums.  The room seems to pulsate and it hurts my eyes. The pulsating light bounces off everything and distorts what I am seeing -- the space seems to be constantly changing.  There’s glare from windows, too many items for me to be able to focus (I may compensate with "tunnel vision"), moving fans on the ceiling, so many bodies in constant motion.  All this affects my vestibular and proprioceptive senses, and now I can’t even tell where my body is in space.

 

3.  Please remember to distinguish between won’t (I choose not to) and can’t (I am not able to).  

 

Receptive and expressive language and vocabulary can be major challenges for me.  It isn’t that I don’t listen to instructions.  It’s that I can’t understand you. When you call to me from across the room, this is what I hear: *&^%$#@, Billy.  #$%^*&^%$&*……… Instead, come speak directly to me in plain words:  “Please put your book in your desk, Billy.  It’s time to go to lunch.”  This tells me what you want me to do and what is going to happen next.  Now it is much easier for me to comply.

 

 

4.  I am a concrete thinker.  This means I interpret language very literally.  It’s very confusing for me when you say, “Hold your horses, cowboy!” when what you really mean is “Please stop running.”  Don’t tell me something is a “piece of cake” when there is no dessert in sight and what you really mean is “this will be easy for you to do.”  When you say “It’s pouring cats and dogs,” I see pets coming out of a pitcher.  Please just tell me “It’s raining very hard.”

 

Idioms, puns, nuances, double entendres, inference, metaphors, allusions and sarcasm are lost on me.

 

 

5.  Please be patient with my limited vocabulary.  It’s hard for me to tell you what I need when I don’t know the words to describe my feelings.  I may be hungry, frustrated, frightened or confused but right now those words are beyond my ability to express.  Be alert for body language, withdrawal, agitation or other signs that something is wrong.

 

Or, there’s a flip side to this:  I may sound like a “little professor” or movie star, rattling off words or whole scripts well beyond my developmental age.  These are messages I have memorized from the world around me to compensate for my language deficits because I know I am expected to respond when spoken to.  They may come from books, TV, the speech of other people.  It is called “echolalia.”  I don’t necessarily understand the context or the terminology I’m using.  I just know that it gets me off the hook for coming up with a reply.

 

 

6.  Because language is so difficult for me, I am very visually oriented.  Please show me how to do something rather than just telling me.  And please be prepared to show me many times.  Lots of consistent repetition helps me learn.

 

A visual schedule is extremely helpful as I move through my day.  Like your day-timer, it relieves me of the stress of having to remember what comes next, makes for smooth transition between activities, helps me manage my time and meet your expectations.  Here’s a great website for learning more about visual schedules: www.cesa7.k12.wi.us/sped/autism/structure/str11.htm .

 

I won’t lose the need for a visual schedule as I get older, but my “level of representation” may change.  Before I can read, I need a visual schedule with photographs or simple drawings.  As I get older, a combination of words and pictures may work, and later still, just words.

 

7.  Please focus and build on what I can do rather than what I can’t do. Like any other human, I can’t learn in an environment where I’m constantly made to feel that I’m not good enough and that I need “fixing.”  Trying anything new when I am almost sure to be met with criticism, however “constructive,” becomes something to be avoided.  Look for my strengths and you will find them. There is more than one “right” way to do most things.

 

 

8.  Please help me with social interactions. It may look like I don’t want to play with the other kids on the playground, but sometimes it’s just that I simply do not know how to start a conversation or enter a play situation.  If you can encourage other children to invite me to join them at kickball or shooting baskets, it may be that I’m delighted to be included.

 

I do best in structured play activities that have a clear beginning and end.  I don’t know how to  “read” facial expressions, body language or the emotions of others, so I appreciate ongoing coaching in proper social responses.  For example, if I laugh when Emily falls off the slide, it’s not that I think it’s funny. It’s that I don’t know the proper response.  Teach me to say “Are you OK?”

 

 

9.  Try to identify what triggers my meltdowns.  Meltdowns, blow-ups, tantrums or whatever you want to call them are even more horrid for me than they are for you.  They occur because one or more of my senses has gone into overload.   If you can figure out why my meltdowns occur, they can be prevented.  Keep a log noting times, settings, people, activities.  A pattern may emerge.

 

Try to remember that all behavior is a form of communication.  It tells you, when my words cannot, how I perceive something that is happening in my environment. 

 

Parents, keep in mind as well:  persistent behavior may have an underlying medical cause.  Food allergies and sensitivities, sleep disorders and gastrointestinal problems can all have profound effects on behavior.

 

10.  If you are a family member, please love me unconditionally.  Banish thoughts like, “If he would just……” and “Why can’t she…..”  You did not fulfill every last expectation your parents had for you and you wouldn’t like being constantly reminded of it.  I did not choose to have autism.  But remember that it is happening to me, not you.  Without your support, my chances of successful, self-reliant adulthood are slim.  With your support and guidance, the possibilities are broader than you might think.  I promise you – I am worth it.

 

And finally, three words:  Patience.  Patience.  Patience.  Work to view my autism as a different ability rather than a disability.  Look past what you may see as limitations and see the gifts autism has given me.  It may be true that I’m not good at eye contact or conversation, but have you noticed that I don’t lie, cheat at games, tattle on my classmates or pass judgment on other people?  Also true that I probably won’t be the next Michael Jordan.  But with my attention to fine detail and capacity for extraordinary focus, I might be the next Einstein.  Or Mozart.  Or Van Gogh.

 

They had autism too.

 

The answer to Alzheimer’s, the enigma of extraterrestrial life -- what future achievements from today’s children with autism, children like me, lie ahead? 

 

All that I might become won’t happen without you as my foundation.  Think through some of those societal ‘rules’ and if they don’t make sense for me, let them go.  Be my advocate, be my friend, and we’ll see just how far I can go.

 

 

© 2005 Ellen Notbohm

 

Ellen Notbohm is author of the book Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew, winner of iParenting Media’s Greatest Products of 2005 Award, and co-author of 1001 Great Ideas for Teaching and Raising Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders, winner of Learning Magazine’s 2006 Teacher’s Choice Award.  A columnist for Autism Asperger’s Digest and Children’s Voice, she is also a contributor to numerous magazines and websites.  Your comments and requests for reprint permission are welcome at ellen@thirdvariation.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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View Article  How We Talk to Children with Autism

 

I'd like to discuss how we talk to children with autism. One of the things that strikes me is the wide range of what is considered acceptable. I'm not talking about teaching methods. Specifically, I'm talking about the tone and volume in which we speak to these children. I know that they're often difficult to reach and may require multiple attempts to get them to attend or to understand what is being said to them. I also understand that this can be frustrating and confusing at times, but it's everyone's job to stay calm and talk to them in a reasonable manner.

 

There are many teachers and therapists in special education that would never speak harshly to any child. However, I've heard many speak to children with autism in ways that no regular education program would tolerate, and it seems that this practice is still widespread. My theory is that this habit of loud, cruel voices has been accepted for so long that no one questions it. It's left over from the days when persons with autism were yelled at, slapped and cattle-prodded to get them to comply. 

 

Everyone knows that being spoken to harshly and punitively can break a person's heart, spirit and self-esteem over time. Our children are no different. They need to feel loved, accepted and cared for. Cruel and abusive tones alone can harmful, even without negative words attached.

 

My suggestion is that we ask our teachers to speak to our children with kindness and respect. At times when firmness is called for, everyone can still speak kindly while staying firm. It's all in the choice of tone and language.

 

We want our children to grow into their full potential. It can't happen if they're feeling anxious, depressed or their self-esteem is damaged. We need to lay the foundation first- love, trust, respect, acceptance and kindness. Then we can build instruction over that foundation, taking care not to displace it. If you think about it, it's all relatively common sense. We all learn and become our best in this kind of supportive and accepting atmosphere. Our children do too. -- Sandra Sinclair, www.autismvoice.com

 

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View Article  Special Education Law and Advocacy Trainings

Wrightslaw holds regular workshops and trainings on the special education IDEA laws and advocacy at different locations around the US.

If you are a resident of the US and have a child with special needs of any kind, I would highly recommend that you look into learning what you can about special education laws in whatever way you can, via books, seminars, or an advocate.

I haven't been to a Wrightslaw seminar yet, but I intend to attend one sometime in the next year or so, to learn more about this very important subject - how to best advocate for our children. Here's the link : Wrightslaw   Scroll down to see the upcoming workshops. -- Sandra Sinclair

View Article  Autismvoice Support Group

Welcome to the Autismvoice Support Group for parents and family members of children with autism spectrum disorders.

Our group meets on the phone 2 times a month, on Wednesdays, 7pm eastern standard time.

We discuss various topics, such as interventions, advocacy, family, day-to-day challenges, and many other aspects of life with autism.

The goal of our group is to improve the quality of life for our families and ourselves by sharing our experiences, information, and ideas with one another.

You are welcome to join. Come and visit and enjoy. By subscribing, you will receive notices by email for upcoming calls with call-in info, including date, time, phone number and access code.


 


There is no charge for joining this group. However, you will incur your normal long distance charges for the duration of the call with your long distance carrier.  

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View Article  Trackback Spamming

I'm sorry everyone who had to see the trackback links that were so awful. Apparently about 4 days ago, someone spammed my blog with all kinds of rude and terrible things and set trackback links back to their website. I think I've removed all of them and have blocked the sender. I'm also considering having no more trackbacks available to my blog if it happens again. Sorry for the vulgarity, everyone. -- Sandra Sinclair

 

View Article  What is Aspergers?

There is a lot of curiosity as to the difference between Aspergers and PDD-NOS. This link goes to a page at the Autism Society of America, explaining what Asperger's Syndrome is:

http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer?pagename=Aspergers

And if you want to see the DSM IV diagnostic criteria for diagnosing Aspergers, here is the link. Scroll down to see the Asperger's diagnosis criteria specifically:

http://www.autismvoice.com/blog/SignsofAutismDiagnosis

Sandra Sinclair,

www.autismvoice.com

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